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Liana
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7:11 PM
This wedding planning has been a roller-coaster. Coming home from Los Angles last month we had a very solid idea of what our intimate destination wedding in Beverly Hills was going to look like. Some of the vendors have been booked, others we had our eyes on. Our Save the Dates are mostly sent out (Mikey designed them himself and it cost all of $54 to print and ship!) and everyone was excited. The dresses have been ordered and the catering negotiated to a ridiculously low rate for any location, making it almost laughable for a 90210 wedding!
But one thing I've stood Absolutely Firm on. I will NOT go into debt for a wedding. My parents, family, Mike, and I came up with a round about figure when we first got engaged and I've been holding onto the budget firm, becoming a proud negotiator and prioritizer. Today we got news that the economy has hit home... my father has been let go of his job. This comes at a hard time for them as they're trying to sell their house too. After my sister's wedding earlier this year and this recent turn of events, putting on a wedding for us is not in the budget for them anymore. So our wedding is officially off unless I can come up with an additional 10-16k profit (not sales, that's after expenses and taxes) in the next few months.
So now the question is... what should we do??
a) Loose the deposits and go elope, and if so when and where?
b) The two of us go to Greystone Mansion since it's partially paid for and then maybe one day have a reception back home?
c) Invite an even smaller group than what originally intended and take the money out of my emergency savings fund to pay for it (not a wise choice in my book)
d) Put our services on Craigslist and see if we can do an all-barter wedding. Or host a few additional Boot Camps and put all the proceeds towards the wedding fund.
e) Put our wedding on eBay and see if people want to bid to come. haha. I actually heard of someone doing this for bridesmaids and they got a big deal with a corporate sponsor just for giggles and a PR stint. (I'm totally kidding on this one!)
f) Not do anything and wait and see what happens. Simply stop making plans.
There are MANY more options, but a few things I DO know for sure:
1. We will still be getting married in the next 5-6 months. I don't think waiting longer is an option for either of us. The goal is to be married, not to have a wedding, right? ;)
2. We will continue with our marriage counseling and actually start with 2-to-1 next week :)
3. Wherever I go, I'll probably still wear my dress since it's already paid for in full. I might look funny in a courthouse but whatever! Haha
4. I STILL want good pictures whatever happens :) What can I say, it's one of the MOST important parts, right?
5. This is bringing me and Mike closer and having to lean on each other even more.
This is in God's hands even more now than we've ever realized before and I'm apt to say that we will be partaking in option "f" for a while. Lots of prayers for my dad to find the right opportunity, and for their house to sell quickly too. This having nothing to do with us getting married really. And patience for me. I'm a planner and this living-in-the-unknown is not my strong suite. Haha. Hey, maybe we'll go elope this weekend... Mikey keeps saying six months is too far away still ;P
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